Move in or move out?

Most of my friends who live with their parents want to move out, I want to move in. When I was about to graduate high school I couldn’t explain the thrill and excitement that I felt with the idea of living alone hours away from home. It only means one thing, FREEDOM. I was 17 so I basically raised myself since then. Well, not financially but I had to make decisions on my own, I had to learn doing household chores which I never did at home.

So yeah, maybe the best picture I could give you how my transition was is that during the first year I was basically all cuts and bruises like I was always in a fight trying to learn how to iron my clothes, do the laundry, the dishes, cook food, clean the house, fix busted lights, hammer lose cabinet doors and oh I was able to make a little table out of scrap woods. (Yeah, that has got to be an accomplishment from someone who learned everything from scratch).

Well, living alone is great. I can go out alone at whatever time I want without asking permission from anyone. I can go wherever. I can go home drunk at 4am without hearing any sermon. But I was pretty much a responsible kid I make sure I’ve done all my home works and papers before I open that bottle of beer and I send home my (legit) A+ class cards to my parents as well as my (legit) Dean’s List certificates. This is to make them feel assured that I’m in good shape which means I’m out of their radar. But I think the best part of living alone is having the place all to yourself when you just want a quiet time or when you just want to be lazy and walk around the house with just your lingerie. You can be messy all you want.

Living alone has its charm but it’s not all that there’s always a downside. When I’m sick I have to take myself to the hospital or nurse myself at home. When I started working, I have to pay for my bills, my food, my rent, association dues and all other salary slashing necessities there are.

Thus, I wanna move back home to experience free rent, electricity, free food, no chores to do. And my parents are getting old and sickly. I wanna spend more time with them and make them happy. I think I could have saved up a large amount of cash if I lived with them. More money for my trips, shopping and my savings. In my head, I have two choices one is to move back to have higher savings another is to move overseas to have higher salary so I can pay everything for my parents but reality says “Grace you’re stuck to where you are for the mean time so deal with it”. Poor me.

20 things I learned in my early 20s

 

(1)  Living on my own for 7 years is a life changing experience.

(2)  Patience is a hard thing to learn when you’re born otherwise.

(3)  Travelling on your own will change the way you see things and you’ll never come home as the same person.

(4)   There will be a time when your friends will be too busy with their own lives and problems you’ll have to be your own friend when your life is up in flames and the same friend when you’re soaring heights.

(5)  You’ll have a boss that will make your life a living hell. But hey! Don’t be threatened. That boss is just another human being (just another asshole). Remember, a job is just a job your life shouldn’t revolve around it.

(6)  Career advancement means less sleep.

(7)  Your life can’t stop just because you lost something or someone important to you.

(8)  Good Steak makes any day brighter.

(9)  Trust is always a sensitive issue.

(10)  Invest in lifetime experiences. Travel.

(11)  Always take the front seat. Front seats are often empty because people are scared to take it.

(12)  Your experience can inspire others, never be ashamed to share them.

(13)  Fishing is my best way to relax.

(14)  Anything worth doing requires sacrifice and hardwork.

(15)  If you don’t feel good about anything, speak up. Have  a voice.

(16)  You’ll have people in your life that will be like anchors. They’d slow down your pace. Get rid of them. It’s the right thing to do.

(17)  You have to do stupid things and make spontaneous decisions in your life. They usually end up to be the best decisions you’ve ever made.

(18)  Don’t waste your life looking for that someone. He’ll come when you’re not looking, when you’re contented with yourself and when you’re truly happy from within.

(19)  Your parents are growing older each time you see them and then you suddenly realize you should have been a better daughter but there’s nothing you can do but to make things better while they’re with you because no one will ever care for you like your family.

(20)  Live dangerously.